Life is so Simple

I am sitting in a coffee shop sipping a hot cup of Cappuccino and there is a lot of hustle and bustle around. I try and concentrate to make some sense out of what appears to be a mere clamor in the beginning. I try and focus on the conversations.

In one corner a guy is talking, loud enough to be heard by everyone and not really moved by the stares people are giving him. “Maybe he is sitting with his girlfriend” I think, but then by the occasional looks he is giving me, I believe her to be his “just a friend”. This guy is cribbing about his job and his boss and is going on and on without bothering about his friend and her bored expression. I am not sure whom to empathize with so I move on to another set of conversations.

Right behind me are two boys talking in their local dialect (Gujarati) and all of a sudden heavy US accented English replaces the local touch. Oh, a US returned Gujju bhai! They are discussing about the US economy and the down sizing happening in companies. I smile and move on.

A group of young boys and girls seem to be having fun looking at other people and passing some or the other comments. A girl in the group is rubbing her finger nails together. Seems like a fan of Baba Ramdev who suggests doing this as a daily practice to improve hair quality. I am wondering if I should do the same from tomorrow and then move on again.

Next is a young guy in his early 20’s wearing a sweat shirt of NUS, spiked hair, spectacles and face red with pimples. Looks the very studious kinds. He calls for a Latte and is now watching some Bollywood song on the TV across. His expressions show how amused he is. I give another look and move on.

But I don’t seem to be hearing anything else now as my own thoughts have kick started a conversation with me. I am thinking, rather taken aback by how simple things are around- the easy flowing conversations, the sweet smiles, the serene faces; everything is just so simple. Life is so simple; we just complicate things around us. Time for me to leave now. I’ve paid my bill and just as I am about to move out a cute looking old couple walks in hand in hand with their own stories to tell and their set of sweet conversations...

Thought for the Mood:
“Life is really simple, but we insist on making it complicated.”
(I also feel the limited your desires are, the simpler your life gets.)

“The simplest things are often the truest.”
(I think of my parents here- simplest and truest.)

To Eternity and beyond....

Today I am celebrating 4 years of togetherness with my husband. It is a very strange feeling, something when I think about; I get butterflies in my stomach and the feeling as if time has stopped in its endless flight. The times we shared as friends and then as a married couple, the conversations, the big and the small moments are still so fresh in my memory as if everything just happened in one day- yesterday.

Today, a line from one of my favourite movies, (used very frequently by my husband to convince me for an early marriage) has become all the more relevant and significant and makes me realize how God has His own way of making you understand certain things only at a certain time. The line is from the movie – “When Harry Met Sally” and goes like this- “when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.” And I am glad I didn’t wait for a couple of more years to get married to this wonderful man and an amazing husband.

It’s not that these years have been a bed of roses and we didn’t have our rough patches to ride on; but just knowing that even in the direst circumstances, the other person will be around, was eventually the most (and still is) comforting factor.

We have differences. And not just trifle ones; major ones- issues on which we are poles apart and will never share a common opinion, issues which challenge our existence together, but (and a very important but) we both know that we can’t imagine our lives without the physical presence of each other. This keeps us together and binds us for the rest of our lives.

I always thought that I will love him till the time I take my last breath but I was wrong, I will love him to eternity and beyond…

Thought for the Mood
“Marriage is not a noun; it's a verb. It isn't something you get. It's something you do. It's the way you love your partner every day.”
(And I need to remind this to myself everyday, especially when we have differences.)

“What you are as a single person, you will be as a married person, only to a greater degree. Any negative character trait will be intensified in a marriage relationship, because you will feel free to let your guard down -- that person has committed himself to you and you no longer have to worry about scaring him off.”
(I have actually never bothered about hiding any of my negative traits, I am what I really am, and this makes me really comfortable.)